Lol, i just noticed the amount of negativity on my page so i've decided to brighten it up. Bucket Lists are the best way to deal with relationship issues, petty problems and lack of productivity. So here goes :
1. Paint a wall in college
2. Go to college drunk/tipsy
3. Double Decker Bus ride :$
4. A massive game of Chor Police/ Hide and Seek around Mumbai with LOADS of people
5. Covering a marble floor with soap and water and sliding on it.
I'll update this with time
Accomplishments:
1. Picked up a traffic cone
2. Graffiting stuff
Suggestions in the comments section would be highly appreciated.
Rape isn't an act, the act is sexual intercourse. Rape is more an emotion.
An emotion of disgust, of viewing yourself more like a body than a soul. It is the feeling of having your emotions abused, as if you don't matter.. you're just a body. You feel tarnished, and injured, dirty, filthy in places that can't be cleaned. Your heart is filthy and injured and there's no way to fix it or cover it or heal it.
You can't look at movies, the kissing and romantic scenes seem repulsive, and fake, like that's the only thing humans want. You can't let another person touch you because you're paranoid, you need love and affection but you're petrified of being touched, you're paranoid and skeptical, ESPECIALLY of the nicest people, they're surely up to something.
Still think tiny clothes means a girl is inviting rapes onto herself? Yeah because every girl is dying to be raped right? WRONG, no one wants to be raped, women want to be admired for their beauty and wit and personality , not viewed as a commodity with only one sole purpose.
It's time our society stopped judging people based on clothes, piercings , hair colour, tattoos , number of female or male friends etc. Rape occurs because of sick minds, it doesn't matter on your body type or looks or clothes, it doesn't differ from burkhas to saris to kurtas to jeans to shorts. Rape is rape and it attacks everyone and doesn't have favourites or show partiality, all it takes is a dirty mind and a vulnerable target.
Carry pepper spray and teach your kids to be non- violent and compassionate.
Disclaimer : This post is not applicable to me personally, and it is merely to raise awareness
Depression is a psychological disorder associated with sadness and it has several symptoms with which it can be identified, such as lack of goal directed activities and a lack of passion, too much sleep.. too little sleep, binge eating.. starving.. sudden increase in weight, sudden loss in weight and guilt , lots and lots of guilt and delusions.
People often deal with this through various (ineffective) defense mechanisms. One of them is Intellectualization. This involves looking at a stimulus that makes you sad in a highly mechanical, intellectual and non emotional way, as though the problem does not involve you. People go about intellectualization by describing the disorder and it's symptoms .. and ways to deal with it.
It doesn't matter how many times you have read about this in your psychology textbooks, because a list of symptoms can't make you empathize if you haven't felt it. Imagine wanting to die, it won't even matter because no one would feel bad if you did, not your teachers who are too angry with you for not studying because your too busy being upset, not your family who thinks you're constantly unreasonable, and friends? what friends?.. The Life Instinct drives all our activities and desires, it is essential to live, imagine that transforming into The Fear of Life, And did i mention guilt?
The worst part is, it can be cured, but then there's the taboo of going to counselors, and the sky high prices of sessions. Seems like a big trap doesn't it? and then we laugh at suicide victims and call them weak.
Be compassionate, for everyone you know is fighting a battle that you have absolutely no idea about and you don't know how much more 'hate' might be needed to tip them over the edge, do kind things for loved ones and strangers and sometimes a hug is all you need to put all your broken pieces together.
Disclaimer: These are my opinions and experiences, i don't expect the reader to agree.
Okay so i'm only 18 and there isn't much i understand about this kind of stuff considering my longest relationship has been 5 months(and counting) but i should point out some differences I have noticed.
The ability to be myself - as cliched as it sounds, i have only recently understood the importance of this with my newest relationship, there is something so liberating about being weird and burps and weird noises and awkward situations feeling normal and okay and comfortable. I think comfort is most necessary, comfort in being yourself, because relationships are meant to make things easier and make you love yourself. That being said, like life relationships aren't all sunshine and butterflies, sometimes you fight and argue, sometimes for a long amount of time , but you can't be making a big deal out of that, it's just something you have to accept because you need to see the other person at their best and worst. So in conclusion, growing older makes you choose people who provide you with comfort and you stop looking at tiny materialistic things like looks and body type. Broke up with someone or got dumped? it's okay that person probably wasn't the best person for you and at least now you know what you don't want in a relationship so someday you will be clear about what you do want.
In general, I don't know if love can be defined or if it is even a concept. Usually people refer to it as 'liking' (infatuation) and love. I'm just going to refer to it as immature love and mature love. Mature love is less of the butterflies and nervousness and sweaty palms and stuttering and it's more like protectiveness and you protect your 'partner' like you would protect your family, you may fight with your family and not get along with them but at the end of the day you still love them and they love you and you'd probably do anything for them because they're pretty much irreplaceable and permanent, but the person you are in love with is a lot different from your family in the sense that their eyes could still make you melt and obvious other physical aspects that every romantic relationship consists of, the difference is also that you don't choose your family members but a partner is out of choice hence you strive to find your 'puzzle piece' or 'soul mate.'
The eaziest way to get a girlfriend or boyfriend is by not doing anything at all and staying true to yourself because once you present yourself to the world , you will automatically be attracted to people who are like you.
Dear Diary,
I thought i'd start off by being true to myself, so here goes.
About me :
1. I'm compassionate, not necessarily because i care for others or because i'm a saint, it is because i understand how people feel because I can empathize with them, doesn't mean i'm not nasty sometimes or unnecessarily mean , but in a way that's good right? because at least I'm aware of my tastes and preferences and I'm not fake.
2. I over think everything, maybe because I need to come to peace with certain things. I can't be perfect and I can't change in a jiffy, I can't please everyone in the world because 7 billions a big number. You know the problem with human beings? They run after happiness , trying to always be happy, you see someone being happy 24/7? Yeah that's a facade. You can't always be happy because then happiness won't exist, Is life really fun and exciting when everything goes your way? Are relationships worth it without arguments and it's fluctuating ups and downs? The ups make you feel the love but the downs just confirm it because it helps clear the air and shows you that the other person isn't going to give up that easily, Sometimes having things worth fighting for shows you they're worth it.
3. My Fears - Being disapproved off by people. Not having friends or people to depend on. Being unloved without social company, Feeling like the entire world except me is having fun. With time I am slowly learning that instead of trying to be a person that people like I should focus more on being myself and seeing if others approve of me. Do i crave affection? yes. Can I be demanding ? yes. Do I have unrealistic expectations? yes. Do I chase people ? yes. Do i get jealous and insecure? yes yes yes. Is that okay? maybe.
I can't help that i crave affection so what should i do ? go out and get some by treating people the way i want to be treated. I am demanding , but am i as demanding as other people or more or less? how do you measure demandingness and be able to tell what is the right amount? Is it wrong to want love and security? Or wanting to get what you deserve? Sometimes it burdens you and yourself to be unrealistic but its okay , we just need to accept that stuff can't always go our way or we won't be thankful and appreciative and respectful when it does. I chase people because I'm sure of what i want and when i want someone i try to keep them around, all i have to do now is be myself and treat them the way i want to be treated. I get jealous because self esteem constantly fluctuates from situation to situation and sometimes people are better than you and worse than you in certain aspects, doesn't mean you aren't a beautiful unique human being.
Maybe these are just defence mechanisms, but bottom line it is necessary to be yourself and not lie to yourself and accept the way you feel without trying to cover it up to make yourself feel better because you only truly feel good and strong when you stay yourself and are proud of yourself despite forces making you change in order to be desirable by society.
